There are so many simple ways to improve your sex life such as: listening to each other, role playing and even experimenting with sex toys.
If you are finding things to be stale or fading, then take some time out and talk to each other. You will need to really listen to each other and figure out what the other feels or may want to change.
Even if you are shy and you are with someone you love and trust then you should lower your shyness and give it a try. You may even find out by listening that you may be thinking the same thing that your partner is.
You may both want something as simple as cuddling before or after or not spending so much time in one spot of your body. You should open up and at least try something once. Sex is something that you share with your partner so you will want to give and get.
If you need to add some spice to your sex life then you can try to role play. It can be fun. You can do what ever want during role playing. You can use costumes, props, or even other people.
These kinds of games can also be fantasies so the sky is the limit. If you want to use costumes you can decide together and go to an adult store and buy some stuff or even a costume shop and buy costumes. Or you can go on your own.
Depending on what you have in mind you may not need much to get the job done. Some costumes that are used most are fireman, milk man, post man, French maid, or even the boss. Some people have fantasies about sleeping with the boss.
So you can have your partner play the role of the boss and then they can switch and you can be the boss. Some woman would love to check out a fireman’s hose, so put on a coat and hat and show her your hose and start her fire.
Your partner may have a thing for the postman thing. You can knock on the door in shorts and a short sleeved shirt and offer to put something into her slot.
Some times it may only take watching a sex show or porno to get things started. You can go to the video store and rent one or even buy one at a local adult novelty shop. You can spice up a movie with atmosphere.
You can use low lights, wine, and candles. You can also wear a slinky nightgown or lingerie. You may even learn something new to try from a video. Just try to enjoy what ever you do this is not a test or a scored game it is for your satisfaction so relax and have fun.